005 – Emotional Intelligence – Self-Awareness

Before you can even make any changes to yourself, you need to know what you are working with. Right? Because, more times than none, you need to have a cheeky look at the instructions for the flat pack wardrobe you said you could do all by yourself.

When you are aware of what your strengths and weaknesses are, you become more confident about what you believe you can do more aware of what you need to work on to improve on your weaknesses. Confidence in your own ability is important. It means you become more assertive about the topic, for example, if you are truly confident in your ability to pitch an idea to your team and confident in the idea itself, whoever you are pitching to will feel and react to your confidence, most likely, in a positive way.

But just because you are confident obviously does not mean that you will instantaneously get your way but you will definitely be able to clearly articulate your thoughts and ideas as well as justify why you believe your idea is right.

Daniel Goleman, believes there are three competencies associated with self-awareness, being:

  1. Emotional self-awareness
  2. Accurate self-assessment
  3. Self-confidence

So how can you become more self-aware?


  • Keeping a journal of your feelings – there seems to be a negative stigma about writing about your own feelings, especially amongst young people. All you need to do is write down on your phone, tablet or a notebook (whatever it may be) what happened, what you’re feeling, and how you reacted.
  • Make a list of your roles – you might be a son, daughter, brother, sister, employee, employer, husband, wife, mother, father, sportsperson, whatever your roles may be, write down as many as you can think of and jot down the feelings connected to that role. Your feelings might be happy, anxious, frustrated. Think of any adjective under the sun!

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